I'm not sure if everyone has rules that they use when trying to find a potential boyfriend, but after a couple of total fails my friend Megan and I came up with a list. After reading an entry on datingish about dating rules I thought I'd post the first 5 of this list on xanga.
You can find more of my rules at my other blog --->
http://lovelustandlaughter.blogspot.com Now we all know the rules like 'Don't call him first' or 'Don't be too available.'
The rules that we came up with are more like requirements that a guy has to meet in order to be considered as a possibility. It may seem a bit harsh to some people, but I definitely didn't want any repeats of failed relationships. Plus since most of us are likely to date the same 'type' of people over and over again maybe this will help me. So here's my list...
Numero Uno: They can't be over 21 and still living with their parents.
I'm a really independent person and I moved out of my mom's house at 18. I understand that not everyone is as independent. However, if you're 22 years old and you rely on your parents for everything I find it really unattractive. (NOTE: The only exception to this is if they're in college full time and live in their dorm most of the year)
Numero Dos: They can not be overly jealous!
Everyone gets jealous sometimes. It's never a pretty thing, and I'm usually embarrassed if I do get jealous. Sometimes it can be cute. I just don't want a guy that's going to be jealous about EVERYTHING! If I hang out with my friends I am not cheating on you with them. They are my friends. I don't want to date them. My friend Megan dated a guy who actually called her a lesbian because she and I were roommates and spent a lot of time together. Really?? You are stupid.
Numero Tres: No abuse of any kind.
Seriously. Don't try it because I will fight back. (Also I have 6 brothers =/ probably not the smartest thing to try and abuse their little sister) Which reminds me...
Numero Cuatro: Don't try to control me.
I am my own person. I like the way I am (for the most part.) and I'm not going to change just because you tell me to. Some of my opinions may not always be right, but at least talk with me about it and let me weigh in on this. It's my life, not yours.
Numero Cinco: Please...Please don't be clingy.
If I had actually written this list in a particular order of importance this might actually make number 1. I need my own space. I just broke up with my last boyfriend because he was always on me. If I didn't sit right next to him his feelings were hurt. If I couldn't hang out with him because my friend just had surgery he thought I hated him. I can't take it when people are like that. I feel like I'm smothering. Don't get me wrong, I like it when a guy wants to be around me and likes me. I just need some time to myself sometimes. Then we can go catch a movie later okay?
So there you have it. Five 'rules' to date by. Maybe they're not all the best rules out there, but I hope my reasons for them made sense. Remember you can find more of these at my other blog.
http://lovelustandlaughter.blogspot.comNow I want to hear from you. Do you have dating rules? If so, which ones?? I'm curious to know.
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